It’s Our Anniversary Week::
Year 34…. but it hardly feels like I’m even old enough to have been married that long lol! I did get married at 19 so I suppose that justifies the feeling:). And yes, you read that right.
I remember the six month world wind like it was yesterday. My brother and I were out on Christmas Eve, shopping in Tyson’s Corner like Christmas was a week away. He spotted this guy he recognized… they chatted while I continued to shop. When we finally reconnected…. the new guy was still by his side. He introduced us and we shopped some more. A few hours later we sat in Houstons getting acquainted like it suddenly wasn’t Christmas Eve after all. The day after he came to my parents house. I had no idea he was away from home for the first time and crazy homesick, (19 year olds only analyze their own feelings.) Anyway, we laughed and talked but it wasn’t until two weeks later when he had an event to go to and needed a date that we saw each other a little differently. Six months later he proposed and eight months later we were married.
Has it been easy….. Not every day. Are there days when we both have issues dying to ourselves….. Yes. The beauty in marriage is finding someone you love and respect enough to keep falling for even when it’s not perfect. That deep kind of love that makes you admire and respect the other person more than you did the day before. Marriage makes you see your own flaws and be blown away that in the midst of your crazy…. the other person thinks you are the greatest! It’s a remarkable partnership if nurtured properly, that allows you to share your deepest thoughts and know you are safe and protected. It’s a beautiful thing when it’s right.
I always laughed when women would ask, “what’s it like being married to an athlete”? In my mind I’d say (what kind of question is that!) Was she saying that because he was on tv or could buy me something my problems were different? Let me say loud and clear….. Money fixes nothing and the public eye is far more harmful than good. Yet my answer would always be the same, our marriage is good because it’s our priority. We nurture the commitment we made and choose to love each other unconditionally. When we have a rough day, we laugh and say I told myself to love you …. And I have full trust in myself. I laugh as I write it but it’s our truth.
Happy 34th to us and may we continue to experience greater depths as the years go by:)